Perhaps the biggest obstacle facing Twos, Threes, and Fours in their inner work is having to face their underlying Center fear of worthlessness. Transformational work entails going into dark places in ourselves, and this very much goes against the grain of the Two’s personality structure, which prefers to see itself in only the most positive, glowing terms. However, Twos’ inner development may be limited by their “shadow side”-pride, self-deception, the tendency to become over-involved in the lives of others, and the tendency to manipulate others to get their own emotional needs met. I married a former priest, and we both have our spirituality as the basis of our life together.” I was in a religious community for ten years. I thought that if people learned about the spiritual life, they’d be happier…The most important part of my life is my spiritual life. I was a religious education director in a number of parishes. I was a teacher who wanted to be sensitive to children and help them get off to a good start. “All of my jobs revolved around helping people. Healthy Twos open our hearts because theirs are already so open and they show us the way to be more deeply and richly human. In short, healthy Twos are the embodiment of “the good parent” that everyone wishes they had: someone who sees them as they are, understands them with immense compassion, helps and encourages with infinite patience, and is always willing to lend a hand-while knowing precisely how and when to let go. They enliven others with their appreciation and attention, helping people to see positive qualities in themselves that they had not previously recognized. Healthy Twos warm others in the glow of their hearts. People are drawn to them like bees to honey. When Twos are healthy and in balance, they really are loving, helpful, generous, and considerate. I really can, and do, love people, pets, and things. I like having the confidence that anyone can tell me anything about themselves and I will be able to love them….I am really proud of myself and love myself for being able to be with people where they are. I like feeling compassionate, caring, nurturing. “I cannot imagine being another type and I would not want to be another type. Louise is a minister who shares the joy she finds in being a Two. Twos are most interested in what they feel to be the “really, really good” things in life-love, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship. The love and concern they feel-and the genuine good they do-warms their hearts and makes them feel worthwhile. Being generous and going out of their way for others makes Twos feel that theirs is the richest, most meaningful way to live. We have named personality type Two The Helper because people of this type are either the most genuinely helpful to other people or, when they are less healthy they are the most highly invested in seeing themselves as helpful. Learn more about the arrows.Įxamples: Paramahansa Yogananda, Pope John XXIII, Guru Ammaji (“The Hugging Saint”), Byron Katie, Bishop Desmond Tutu, Eleanor Roosevelt, Nancy Reagan, Monica Lewinsky, Ann Landers, Mary Kay Ash (Mary Kay Cosmetics), Leo Buscaglia, Richard Simmons, Luciano Pavarotti, John Denver, Lionel Richie, Stevie Wonder, Barry Manilow, Dolly Parton, Josh Groban, Music of Journey, Bobby McFerrin, Kenny G, Paula Abdul, Priscilla Presley, Elizabeth Taylor, Danny Thomas, Martin Sheen, Jennifer Tilly, Danny Glover, Richard Thomas “John Boy Walton,” Juliette Binoche, Arsenio Hall, Timothy Treadwell “Grizzly Man,” “Melanie Hamilton Wilkes” (Gone with the Wind), “Eve Harrington” (All About Eve), “Dr. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), prideful, self-deceptive Twos become more self-nurturing and emotionally aware, like healthy Fours. When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), needy Twos suddenly become aggressive and dominating at Eight. Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves. Enneagram Two with a Three-Wing: "The Host/Hostess".Enneagram Two with a One-Wing: "Servant".Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved.At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted.
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